Do You Ask Yourself the Right Questions?

How many times have you said I wish I knew what is it exactly that I should be doing with my life? Or I wish if someone could tell me straight and flat you are supposed to be doing this or that. How many times have you asked yourself (or others) what is it that I can do, or what am I really good at? What is the best job for me?!

For well over 8 years I have been asking the same questions, I asked them the very first thing in the morning when I woke up and they were the last thing on my mind before I went to bed. I asked almost everyone I knew (several times), as well as those who I didn’t really know!

I spent most of my money on self help books; I took so many self assessment tests, career quiz, skills assessments, aptitude tests...etc. I even went a little further; I wished I could travel back in time to ask our prophet (pbuh) those questions (I knew he would have an answer for me). I spent a good chunk of my night prayers asking God- in tears- if He would just reveal it to me in a dream perhaps, or if He would just give me a clue, any clue! And I promised I would understand.

It never happened, not in that way at least.

I believe that if something is not working do something else. And the day had come when I realised I had been going on in circles for almost a decade without getting an answer, and I truly need to do something else!

So I decided a change of strategy is very much needed.

I started by reviewing what I already know, not so much indeed. And what else that I can do, and how else can I do it!

I reviewed the kind of questions I had been asking, and who I had been asking, and how I had been asking them! And then it came to me, I had been asking the wrong questions to the wrong people looking for the wrong answers!!!

Then I started thinking what kind of answers I am looking for, who/what might have them, and how to ask my questions to get those answers.

And the new strategy has worked, very much indeed (Alhamdulillah).

Now, and after I have all the answers that I need; I know exactly what I am supposed to do and best of all, how to do it!

And I am here to share my findings with you as well as my strategy.

Key Findings

The Hidden Secret ‘Life Purpose’

‘The most important days in your life is the day you are born and the day you find out why’ Mark Twain

Why you are here? Why you were created? And by ‘you’ I really mean you as an individual, as a separate entity distinct from the ‘we’. It is indeed the greatest and most significant secret you should attempt to reveal.

The Puzzle

Unfortunately this secret is like a puzzle and the pieces are all over the place, and every part of you holds a piece of this puzzle. And it is about time to call for the Indiana Jones within you and go treasure-hunting for all those missing pieces.

Major Treasure Pits

The Heart

‘Everyone has been created for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart’ Rumi

True, you are meant to do a very specific job that won’t be done unless you do it as mentioned above.

And true, your heart holds this desire within it all along (this actually explains the feeling of wanting or longing in the area around your heart that you experience from time to time). And it is time you start working on how to retrieve this information from your heart. (Your heart is, in fact, a highly complex, self-organised information processing centre with its own functional brain that communicates with and influences the cranial brain...) Dr. Childre, HMI.

The Mind (Both Conscious and Unconscious)

The most important player of all and perhaps the most versatile too; for it can obey you utterly and completely, but if you are not paying good attention it can throw you off track and knocks you down. (That is why you will need a grand help in managing it!)

The Self

"وَنَفْسٍ وَمَا سَوَّاهَا فَأَلْهَمَهَا فُجُورَهَا وَتَقْوَاهَا"

And by the self I mean that being that lives inside you that keeps whispering/ nagging in your ears and inside your heart and gut, and often takes control of your head!

That ‘being’ that you either surrender all your will and might to, or launch a severe attack to fight, suppress and shush, or maybe both; at the same time!

Despite its variations and kinds it is your ‘compass’ that not only has a significant piece of the puzzle but can reveal to you where the other pieces are likely to be found and you have to learn to communicate with it better.

The Brain

The huge unbelievable ability to process, organise, link information, and draw conclusions and above all; to pay attention. Let me tell you about a significant part inside your brain the neuroscientists call your Genius Within or the Puzzle Cracker as I like to call it. This part has the ability to construct puzzles, gather all the missing pieces and put them together and make some meaning out of it!!!


As in all great quests, you are going to need all the help you can get, and people around you have some input, so at some point you will need to ask for their assistance.


‘Sell yourself to God, He will invest in you!’ I say.

Keeping Him for last only reflects how big His support really is. From allowing you to start your journey, helping you regulating your physical organs (physiology) and be in control of your ‘self’ and your mind, to finding the pieces and putting them all together, and discover what it all means.

And He is the only One who can help you succeed in your mission of accomplishing your life purpose after you know it.

"وَالَّذِينَ جَاهَدُوا فِينَا لَنَهْدِيَنَّهُمْ سُبُلَنَا"

It is worth mentioning here that His ‘will’ is for you to succeed, and He shall give you all the support you will need but you have to tune up your whole being (it is amazing that He helps you with that too!!) to take notice when His support is granted.

I am wishing you the very best of luck in your journey, and May God help you get there Insha’Allah.

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